Admit You’re Wrong, Or Die

OK, so maybe (maybe) not so dramatic as that, but come on people, alright already, you’re wrong, admit it and start what you need to do to heal!

Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

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With people dropping left and right, diseases and cancer on the rise, excess deaths, heart issues, clotting, if many people don’t actually admit they are wrong they may die, or at the very least, eventually get very sick. Sure, we don’t know the extent of the danger of these experimental drugs. But we do know they are not what they have been cracked up to be. Most of the people still following this lying agenda (safe and effective? Was this ever the truth?) simply cannot admit they were wrong.

I honestly believe they would rather die, in a lot of cases, than admit their error. I am a psychotherapist, and have seen hundreds of couples in marriage counselling. It is so rare, at least in the first sessions, for either party to admit they are wrong about just about anything. If I am successful with them, they will begin to back down, but it takes a lot of work.

What is this? I am a pretty old guy, and I do remember a time when people were more flexible. Sure, no one likes to admit they’re wrong, but they actually used to do that, at least occasionally. When I was a Hollywood film composer, writing music to The New Lassie, one of the producers would occasionally disagree with my music choices (producers are wont to do that, disagree). But I loved this guy because he would always say to me, “I don’t really like what you did there, do you?” Of course I did, I wrote it. So usually I would say, “Well, yes, I do like it, I think it fits the scene well.” He would seldom insist I change something, but rather would ask me to pitch my choice. “Tell me why I should like it.” I always had a good explanation, and very often he would sit there and stare at me for a moment after I had explained why the music was excellent. “Hmmm,” he would often mutter, rubbing his chin. “OK, that makes sense to me, let’s leave it.”

Anyone reading this who worked or currently works in the film biz knows that what I just described is a rather unusual scene. Producers, at least in the music end of things, very seldom give in to a composer. The point I am making here though is that people really did at one time change their mind about things.

Maybe my producer boss wasn’t admitting he was “wrong” (music is a very subjective medium) but certainly could change his mind. He was flexible, and most importantly, he would let me explain my position. And if he saw something in my explanation that made sense to him, he would relent and shift positions.

Forget that now. It ain’t happening.